Some Nigerian Men Lack Emotional Depth – Toke Makinwa

Media personality Toke Makinwa has sparked conversations online after sharing her views on the emotional intelligence of many Nigerian men.

Speaking during a recent episode of the MENtality podcast hosted by Ebuka Obi-Uchendu, Makinwa said many Nigerian men focus more on providing money in relationships than building emotional connections and good communication.

According to her, the belief that Nigerian women are overly materialistic is partly influenced by the way some men approach relationships.

She explained that many men see financial support as their main way of expressing affection and believe that offering money is enough to attract or keep a woman in a relationship.

Makinwa added that, based on her experience, some men are quick to offer money instead of taking time to genuinely get to know a woman.

She stated, “From time immemorial, a relationship between a man and a woman has always been transactional, right from the Garden of Eden, right from our parents’ days. And the degree at which it is happening now, I will blame the men. Sometimes, that [financial benefits] is all men have to offer. Nigerian men don’t have games aside from money. Once a Nigerian man makes money, he starts throwing it at the hottest girls. Sometimes, you meet a man and you want to know him but he is offering you money. Men have offered women the strangest things and it made me realise that men feel cash is all they need to show you. Most girls who are materialistic today, men taught them how to make demands.”

She added that this behaviour has contributed to a culture where material expectations have become common in modern relationships.

According to the actress, many women have learned to place more value on material benefits because they have repeatedly been shown by some men that money is the most important thing they have to offer.

Her comments have generated mixed reactions on social media. While some people agreed that emotional intelligence is often overlooked in relationships, others argued that her remarks unfairly generalized Nigerian men.